You almost always lose before you gain

This thought is really what inspired this whole endeavor - the realization that losing leads to gaining, and gaining rarely happens without losing something.

Sometimes the loss is an overdue good riddance. Sometimes the loss is a heartbreaking, gut-wrenching surprise. And sometimes the loss is subtle, moving slowly in the background. The gains, however, are always on the up; although it sometimes takes a lot of work to see and realize the full goodness of the gain.

On my 35th birthday a good friend joked that I was halfway to 70 (hence the site name) and I realized that my life’s journey had me opening doors that not a lot of people had to open by that age. So within this space you’ll read a lot about my personal losses and gains. I’ll talk about how each loss/ gain affected me across the experience spectrum: from pragmatic logistics to emotional spirituality. Sometimes I’ll ask framily to help me paint a more robust picture. Regardless of how many people help me tell a story, I promise you will always get the raw realness.

Some examples of what you’ll find here:

• What it’s like to chase my dreams, particularly in my 20s. I literally moved cross country twice in five years.

• Losing my dad and the lessons that came with that.

• Random self care things that help me keep my head above water, or helped me feel truer to myself.

• Life milestones that weren’t necessarily turnkey to navigate.

TL:DR: this is an embellished life FAQs of sorts.

And if you ever want to know about something in particular that hasn’t been covered yet, feel free to reach out. Chances are I know a guy who knows a gal that can give you their 2 cents of wisdom. There’s no need to feel alone and start from ground zero. Not when some of us have already been there; not when some of us are already halfway to seventy.